CONFIDENCE
BUILDING 20th Oct, 2014
The potential strength hidden inside
which manifests itself to bring out the best in an individual is called
confidence. Present by default as a rudimentary seedling in a person from his
birth, this instinct once recognized, cultured, nourished and grown healthily,
unearths qualities of immense magnification taking the individual to scale
heights of bountiful success and flamboyant prosperity emanating from a dynamic
personality.
To develop self confidence, the following
techniques may be adopted:
1. Spend time with yourself,
give some minutes of the day quietly and exclusively to the friendly soul
inside you, your conscience who is your honest and sincere mentor. Talk to
yourself, and analyze your talents, your merits. List them down, feel proud and
happy about them and give yourself a pat of appreciation. Every individual is
bestowed with hidden talents, in the admirable form; it only needs to be
realized by the self.
2. Next identify your
insecurities, with the help of the friendly soul. Pull out the fears, whether
in the form of any person or thing or event. Just let the thoughts flow out,
and note them down. Face them boldly.
3. Make a list of mistakes
you think that you might have made, and stop grieving over them. Bounce back
from them taking them as teaching notes in life. Remember perfection is not a
mortal symptom, to err is human. But accepting the mistake and not repeating it
is wisdom.
4. Develop a positive
mindset, and never allow anyone to make you feel inferior. Never give yourself
away as an object of pity and sympathy. Never feel scared or insecure to
project your views and ideas in front of others. Rather reinforce those ideas
in your mind and proceed towards a positive growth. Your bold approach will
keep you away from negative and critical attacks.
5. Stop comparison with
others, remember, the grass is always greener on the other side. Avoid focusing
on what others have and you don’t, rather be happy and contended with what you
possess, because your possession is your inherent strength. Develop and use
that.
6. Dress up in a graceful
manner and in attire that suits you. Stand in front of the mirror, smile and
admire yourself. Your compliment to your own appearance boosts up your level of
confidence but be sure not to cross the boundary into the realm of over
confidence and arrogance. Accept compliments gracefully with modesty and
happiness.
7. Maintain a good physique
by exercising regularly, eating healthily and sleeping adequately. Healthy body
contributes graciously towards building confidence.
8.
Take special care of your body language;
stand upright, tall and proud instead of hunching over, look
straight ahead of you instead of at the ground, and don't cross
your arms over your chest. Keep your body
active and engaged, and you'll
start to feel more confident as you go about your day and approach others. Keep feeling that you are the most
confident person around. Make eye contact with people when you speak to them.
9. Help others, like people
in the family or at work, as it instills a positive ray of light which
catalyzes confidence building. The very thought that you are making a good
difference in the lives of others, elevates your confidence level.
10. Avoid company of negative
minded and pessimistic attitude people. Always look for company of people who
are optimists and make you feel good and happy. Shun the company of toxic
friends and stop thinking over depressive matters. A capsule of determination
well coated with positive energy and enthusiasm can do magical wonders in
building self confidence.
Dr Paramita Mishra
